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When a Storm Brings You Together

Day 10-11:35 pm: As I sit here typing, a crazy storm rages outside. Like, a literal storm. The wind is howling, the rain is beating down on the roof, and under our house has 6 inches of water. I feel like at any minute the power might go out! But, to tell you the truth, I love it! I’ve always loved a good rain storm. I love the sound the rain makes, the feel of fresh air, and the fact that all my plants are getting watered!

Do you like the rain?

I have to admit, though, that it’s not all relaxing. If you have to drive in the storm it’s a pain, and my anxiety goes way up. I drive like 10 mph. Going to the grocery store is ridiculous because your bags get soaking wet. So, we have been eating whatever we have in the house that includes a pot of vegetable soup thrown together with random ingredients, and spaghetti.

It has also meant that instead of working on my job search or my business, I had to stand in the rain with my favorite large cooking pot and scoop water out of our crawl space. Super fun. My back is going to be so sore!

But, it did feel good to be helping my hubby out. We are first time homeowners and first time home owners in a storm, so to be out there together siphoning water was a real bonding experience. I love that we could do that together.

Lately we have felt a little disconnected because we have different ideas of what I should be looking for in a job. I want a job where I can have the flexibility to be at home with our little one and work virtually at off hours. He wants me in a more traditional job.

It’s hard when you and your hubby aren’t on the same page.

The love is still there, and there is a solid foundation you have built over time. But when you don’t see eye to eye on big important issues it could feel like you are drifting apart.

So, here is my advice. Do something together. Anything. Siphon water from your basement. Go to dinner. Make time for each other. It really is important to do it.

And don’t talk about the “issue”.

I know, I know, relationships are all about communication. But for that hour or two, just have fun. Enjoy each other’s company and remember why you got married in the first place.

So let the storm bring you together. You’ll have time to work out the hard stuff later, but take some time to do something together and you will be a lot happier for it. The storm provides. 🙂

Speaking of storms, there’s some crazy thunder and lightning! I’m going to head to bed!

Juggling Everything You Have to Do

Day 9-11:59 pm- Yes, I’m up late. I’ve been applying to jobs. This afternoon I was working on something very exciting for my blog. So, I have come to the realization that I’m just not going to sleep anymore. Trying to find harmony is proving just as tough as I imagined, and I feel like I am far from it.

How are you doing on your Journey to Harmony?

Balance. There’s that word again. It’s just not possible! I think my world right now can be described in one word. Juggling. I am constantly throwing more balls in the air then I know what to do with.

Work at my toddler’s preschool- ball.

Writing blog posts- ball. (Love this)

Looking for a job- ball.

Playing with my toddler- ball. (My favorite)

Keeping the house clean- ball.

Spending time with my hubby- ball. (Favorite too)

Walking the dog- ball. (Fun)

Starting a very exciting piece for my blog- ball. (Yeah!)

Eating??- yeah right.

Sleeping?? – yeah right.

Self care??- what’s that?

Does any of this sound familiar?

If so, I get it. I get that your head is pulled in too many directions. That at times you want to throw your head in a pillow and yell curse words so your kids can’t hear them and start repeating them at school. I am right there with ya, sista.

But, before we check ourselves into an insane asylm, let’s all just take a deep breath. There. Let’s remember that it won’t alwyas be this crazy. Maybe for a little bit, but something will give. You will get a breather. I promise.

Something I find that will help me a lot is scheduling. Planning is so important to get everything done in your day. By planning, you can feel more organize and less scattered. You can feel more in control. I love to do lists, especially when I can check things off. Often times I even put tiny things on there like “Go to the bathroom” just so I can check it off the list! Though, I only have time for that once a day. TMI??

Anyway, because I love you guys, I have decided to put together a daily planner. This is something I think we could all use that will make everything just a little bit better. If you’re on my email list, I will send it to you as soon as it is complete. If you’re not, then why not? 🙂 Join! And I will send it to you.

Trust me, you will love this!

So, ladies, I believe in you. I know we have a lot going on, but let’s find peace in unity. Send me an email, or find me on Facebook or Instagram. I promise I’ll write back and we can talk about all of the balls we are juggling.

Here’s to being expert jugglers.


Combating a Lack of Motivation

Day 8-10:08 pm: This post is going to be a short one. My little one is still awake and it’s so late! I think it’s because we were inside all day due to the rain. That’s also a reason why I didn’t get much accomplished. Trying to keep a toddler entertained during the rain was not easy, and therefore I didn’t get to do much of a job search, or work on much of my business.

But we did get to play in some puddles.

So how do you combat a lack of motivation? When it’s rainy outside and all you want to do is cuddle up on the couch with a cup of tea?

What I did was I kept thinking about my goals. I kept thinking about what I really wanted. I kept thinking about how if I made a little more money we could hire someone to put up gutters on our house so my hubby wouldn’t have to be standing on a ladder with a rain coat, swim trunks, and flip flops in the pouring rain trying to fix them. Or, we could afford to pay someone to pick up our groceries for us and deliver them to our house so I wouldn’t have to go out in the rain.

So, even though all I wanted to do was watch a movie, I managed to find the time to work a little bit on my business and write this blog post. Because I need to keep going, for my family.

So, make sure to keep your goals in mind.

Ok, my little one is having a melt down and I need to go!

Good luck!

Keeping Up with the Joneses is Ridiculous

Day 7-9:25 pm: I love my friends. We have a really great group of people we have known for a long time. We feel very lucky to have good friends around us as I’m sure you do too. But, sometimes you can’t help but compare yourselves to them. You look at their house, their lifestyle, and even their kid’s clothes. Then you look at your own. It’s called keeping up with the Joneses.

But keeping up with the Jonses is ridiculous.

No matter who you are or what you have, you always are trying to keep up with the “Joneses”. The Joneses are people who appear to have it all. They have a huge house, lots of money, the perfect family, and everything you aspire to have. You look up to them, admire them, and are constantly comparing yourself to them.

We went to our friend’s house this afternoon, and we hadn’t been there before. They live only a few minutes from su, but we hadn’t gotten around to going there. I always knew they made more then us, financially, so I expected them to have a nice house. when we pulled up I thought, “Is there house the gorgeous, huge house over there?” and sure enough it was. It was down a quiet street, across from a school, with a perfectly landscaped yard, a gorgeous outdoor seating area, and two stories of perfection. Inside the house looked like thie inside of a Pottery Barn catalouge, and they had a huge TV that was enviable. And the kitchen , wow. White cabinets and dark counter tops with a huge island. Beautiful. The house was amazing. And, it was quite literally the size of three of our houses.

I couldn’t help to start comparing our house to theirs.

Then I had to shake myself. Slap myself across the face. Wake myself up. I had to remind myself that even though our house isn’t picture perfect, magazine, ready, and huge, that it is still our cozy little house, and I am proud of it. Even though there’s a pile of dishes in the sink, and our lawn needs to be mowed, and parts of our fence are falling down, we still have a beautiful kitchen I’m proud of, nice hardwood floors, and a big yard with a playhouse. I love our house, and we worked hard to get it.

I had to realize that they also worked hard to get where they are, they had to make sacrifices, and everything isn’t always rainbows and puppies for them either.

Keeping up with the Jonses is ridiculous because even if you are the Jonses, there are Joneses that you look up to also. So, please, stop comparing yourself to other people, and look at all the things that you have. Be grateful for all of the wonderful things that make you special, and amazing.

Even if their kids are dresses perfectly, without any food on their faces, and their hair perfectly brushed and bowed, just know that it takes work, and they are kids, just like yours. And, I’ll bet that your stained clothed kids have just as much fun as theirs.

Your house if perfect for you. Your family is perfect to you. And you are perfect, too.

Always remember that.

Love you guys!