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Spend Quality Time with Your Family

Day 11-10:51 pm: It’s amazing how quickly we can get caught up in things. We get so busy doing dishes, making dinner, doing laundry, scrolling through Facebook, that sometimes it’s easy to miss out on magical moments. Let’s take this moment to remember to stop and spend some quality time with our family.

It all started after the storm.

Remember I talked about the crazy storm we had here? If not, check out my post. So we were cleaning up after the storm, and pumping water from under our house. The outside was a mess. My hubby was outside putting up gutters on our house while I was inside trying to clean up the mess. You know the mess. It’s the dishes and toys and papers that pile up when it’s raining outside and you’re stuck in the house. Sound familiar?

So as I was cleaning the dishes I was letting my toddler play in the living room. And just as I completed that task, I went into the living room and it was a mess! One step forward. Two steps backwards.

So after I cleaned up the living room it was time to make dinner. So, I brought my toddler into the kitchen with me, gave her a big pot, and let her get water from the fridge and pour it into the pot to make “Soup”.

But, then the kitchen was a mess!

There was just a constant mess inside and outside our house.

Do you ever feel you just can’t keep up?

But, then I got to thinking. During this whole time I hadn’t really spent any quality time with my family. My hubby was outside cleaning up, and I was inside cleaning up. My toddler had been great about playing independently, but I wanted to play with her.

So after dinner, we left the dishes in the kitchen, and I sat down and played with my toddler. We did play-doh, read books, played with dolls, then watched a movie together. It was so nice for all of us to take a breath, and just enjoy each other’s company.

Even my husband came and read some books too. It was nice to have family time.

I realized how important it was to take time out of cleaning, and work, and craziness to just be with your family. Spend some quality time together. The other stuff will get done, eventually, I promise. The dishes will be fine.

Everybody will benefit from spending some quality time together. Really.

 

  

When a Storm Brings You Together

Day 10-11:35 pm: As I sit here typing, a crazy storm rages outside. Like, a literal storm. The wind is howling, the rain is beating down on the roof, and under our house has 6 inches of water. I feel like at any minute the power might go out! But, to tell you the truth, I love it! I’ve always loved a good rain storm. I love the sound the rain makes, the feel of fresh air, and the fact that all my plants are getting watered!

Do you like the rain?

I have to admit, though, that it’s not all relaxing. If you have to drive in the storm it’s a pain, and my anxiety goes way up. I drive like 10 mph. Going to the grocery store is ridiculous because your bags get soaking wet. So, we have been eating whatever we have in the house that includes a pot of vegetable soup thrown together with random ingredients, and spaghetti.

It has also meant that instead of working on my job search or my business, I had to stand in the rain with my favorite large cooking pot and scoop water out of our crawl space. Super fun. My back is going to be so sore!

But, it did feel good to be helping my hubby out. We are first time homeowners and first time home owners in a storm, so to be out there together siphoning water was a real bonding experience. I love that we could do that together.

Lately we have felt a little disconnected because we have different ideas of what I should be looking for in a job. I want a job where I can have the flexibility to be at home with our little one and work virtually at off hours. He wants me in a more traditional job.

It’s hard when you and your hubby aren’t on the same page.

The love is still there, and there is a solid foundation you have built over time. But when you don’t see eye to eye on big important issues it could feel like you are drifting apart.

So, here is my advice. Do something together. Anything. Siphon water from your basement. Go to dinner. Make time for each other. It really is important to do it.

And don’t talk about the “issue”.

I know, I know, relationships are all about communication. But for that hour or two, just have fun. Enjoy each other’s company and remember why you got married in the first place.

So let the storm bring you together. You’ll have time to work out the hard stuff later, but take some time to do something together and you will be a lot happier for it. The storm provides. 🙂

Speaking of storms, there’s some crazy thunder and lightning! I’m going to head to bed!

Juggling Everything You Have to Do

Day 9-11:59 pm- Yes, I’m up late. I’ve been applying to jobs. This afternoon I was working on something very exciting for my blog. So, I have come to the realization that I’m just not going to sleep anymore. Trying to find harmony is proving just as tough as I imagined, and I feel like I am far from it.

How are you doing on your Journey to Harmony?

Balance. There’s that word again. It’s just not possible! I think my world right now can be described in one word. Juggling. I am constantly throwing more balls in the air then I know what to do with.

Work at my toddler’s preschool- ball.

Writing blog posts- ball. (Love this)

Looking for a job- ball.

Playing with my toddler- ball. (My favorite)

Keeping the house clean- ball.

Spending time with my hubby- ball. (Favorite too)

Walking the dog- ball. (Fun)

Starting a very exciting piece for my blog- ball. (Yeah!)

Eating??- yeah right.

Sleeping?? – yeah right.

Self care??- what’s that?

Does any of this sound familiar?

If so, I get it. I get that your head is pulled in too many directions. That at times you want to throw your head in a pillow and yell curse words so your kids can’t hear them and start repeating them at school. I am right there with ya, sista.

But, before we check ourselves into an insane asylm, let’s all just take a deep breath. There. Let’s remember that it won’t alwyas be this crazy. Maybe for a little bit, but something will give. You will get a breather. I promise.

Something I find that will help me a lot is scheduling. Planning is so important to get everything done in your day. By planning, you can feel more organize and less scattered. You can feel more in control. I love to do lists, especially when I can check things off. Often times I even put tiny things on there like “Go to the bathroom” just so I can check it off the list! Though, I only have time for that once a day. TMI??

Anyway, because I love you guys, I have decided to put together a daily planner. This is something I think we could all use that will make everything just a little bit better. If you’re on my email list, I will send it to you as soon as it is complete. If you’re not, then why not? 🙂 Join! And I will send it to you.

Trust me, you will love this!

So, ladies, I believe in you. I know we have a lot going on, but let’s find peace in unity. Send me an email, or find me on Facebook or Instagram. I promise I’ll write back and we can talk about all of the balls we are juggling.

Here’s to being expert jugglers.

 

Combating a Lack of Motivation

Day 8-10:08 pm: This post is going to be a short one. My little one is still awake and it’s so late! I think it’s because we were inside all day due to the rain. That’s also a reason why I didn’t get much accomplished. Trying to keep a toddler entertained during the rain was not easy, and therefore I didn’t get to do much of a job search, or work on much of my business.

But we did get to play in some puddles.

So how do you combat a lack of motivation? When it’s rainy outside and all you want to do is cuddle up on the couch with a cup of tea?

What I did was I kept thinking about my goals. I kept thinking about what I really wanted. I kept thinking about how if I made a little more money we could hire someone to put up gutters on our house so my hubby wouldn’t have to be standing on a ladder with a rain coat, swim trunks, and flip flops in the pouring rain trying to fix them. Or, we could afford to pay someone to pick up our groceries for us and deliver them to our house so I wouldn’t have to go out in the rain.

So, even though all I wanted to do was watch a movie, I managed to find the time to work a little bit on my business and write this blog post. Because I need to keep going, for my family.

So, make sure to keep your goals in mind.

Ok, my little one is having a melt down and I need to go!

Good luck!